basic application of ideas

I agree

bringing the subtext to the front collapses it

but

I also agree unless I am totally based it could collapse me

I guess

being aware of the sub-text makes us stronger and our responses can be to not reinforce them, or at least not verbally

A nonverbal eye roll from a position of awareness might help recalibrate the relationship

not all communication have to be verbal

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